Can you recall a time when you had a young child under your care — maybe a niece, a nephew, or even a little one over the weekend? Or perhaps you were placed in a position at work to guide a new colleague or intern? You noticed something off — the child wasn’t being themselves, or the intern seemed distracted, quiet, or out of step.
You asked, “What’s wrong?
Why did you do that?” — not to control them, but because you genuinely cared. You needed the truth so you could help. And in most cases, the younger child might speak up quickly, sharing what’s on their mind. The intern, on the other hand, might hold back, hesitant to open up.
When they do speak, you step in with support. Maybe you comfort them, offer guidance, or call in someone with more expertise. The problem is addressed sooner rather than later, and the energy between you both shifts from tension to understanding.
Now, let’s switch the roles. Not expecting a child to solve your adult challenges, but in our adult circles… why is it so common to respond, “I’m fine,” when in truth, you’re facing difficulties?
Here’s a piece of wisdom I want to share with you — you may have known it, forgotten it, or are hearing it for the first time: we are all energy, and we are interconnected.
When someone senses that you’re not okay, they are responding to their own intuition — a part of you reflected in them.
When you insist, “I’m fine,” despite needing support, two things happen:
- You deny yourself the care and love you deserve.
- You disrupt the other person’s ability to trust their intuition.
I grew up in a culture where intuition was ignored — there was no teaching on noticing energy or trusting it. It took me years to learn to tune in. And I want to invite you to take a different path.
Every time you are not in a good space and someone reaches out, pause for a moment. …
Let this thought pop up:
- I want to love myself.
- I am grateful for my colleague, friend, or family member for noticing me and responding with care.
Allowing yourself to be seen and supported doesn’t make you weak.
It accelerates your healing, strengthens relationships, and gradually builds circles and communities that are healthier, more loving, and interconnected.
One honest conversation at a time, one heartfelt connection at a time — this is how transformation spreads.
Lizette-B
The Life Alchemist – Turning Trauma into Transformation