“Moving on” suggests leaving the past behind as if it never happened. But trauma, heartbreak, or even prolonged stress doesn’t vanish when ignored — it stores itself in the body, quietly shaping how we think, react, and connect.
So, when someone says, “Just move on,” they’re really asking you to disconnect from your truth.
And that disconnection often becomes the very reason we feel numb, restless, or stuck.
Real healing begins when we stop running from the story and start gently walking through it — one piece at a time.
What Healing Really Looks Like
Healing isn’t a straight line, and it’s rarely glamorous. It’s messy, unpredictable, and sometimes exhausting. But it’s also beautifully human.
Healing looks like:
- Saying “no” when your old self would’ve said “yes.”
- Taking time to process what you’ve heard before jumping into “fight, flight, or freeze” mode.
- Allowing your body to rest instead of going into “coping” default.
- Feeling uncomfortable feelings without trying to fix them right away.
It’s learning that your pace is perfect, and that healing is less about forgetting and more about remembering who you were before the pain taught you fear.
Moving Through, Not On
The truth is — you don’t move on from pain; you move through it.
And on the other side, something shifts.
You start to breathe deeper. You trust your instincts again. You notice that you’re reacting differently — softer, wiser, steadier.
That’s how healing quietly announces itself. Not with fireworks, but with peace.
So, if you’ve been told to “just move on,” maybe you don’t need to.
Maybe you just need to move with it — through the grief, through the growth, and into the person you’re becoming.
Because healing isn’t about erasing what happened.
It’s about discovering the strength, wisdom, and compassion it left behind for you.
May you find the understanding that moving through is where the true transformation lies —
and may you have the courage to walk that path, so you can rise into the highest version of who you were always meant to be.
-Lizette-B
The Life Alchemist – Turning Trauma into Transformation